What have been your experiences with conflict? Have most of them been harmful and destructive, or have you had some personal experiences with conflict that resulted in positive outcomes? What factors contributed to the resulting outcomes? What were your contributions to the outcomes?
What approaches to dealing with conflict were most prevalent in your family of origin? Do you find yourself continuing to use these approaches in your own day-to- day conflicts? If not, what influenced you most to incorporate different approaches to conflict?
What transformative activities do you engage in to promote your personal growth and increase your level of self-understanding?
In your personal life, what signs do you look for to help you recognize the covert conflict with your family and friends? How do you act once you are aware that covert conflict is present?
As a developing group leader, how can you ascertain when you might be expressing countertransference or projecting onto group members?
What is your own level of awareness, knowledge, and skill in working with diverse individuals? What is the range and depth of your personal experience in building relationships with others of different cultures, ethnicities, sexual orientation, socioeconomic level, educational attainment, age, and ability/disability? How do such factors influence your views of diverse members?
What personal experiences have you had in shifting worldviews in order to “live in more than one world” as members of many nonprivileged groups have done?
Chapter 10 Reflection Questions (Choose 1-3 Questions to Reflect Upon)
Think of your own level of awareness as represented by the Johari window. What relative sizes would you assign for each of the windows? Would they all be the same size, or would some be larger than others? If they would be of different sizes, which windows would be larger?
What methods do you tend to use in your life to increase the size of the Johari window area that is labeled “known to others, but not to self”?
Do you have any strategies or approaches in your life for decreasing the size of the area that is “unknown to self”?
What type of self-disclosure do you think is most appropriate for a group leader? To what extent might you expect group members to meet your level of risk-taking and
self-disclosure?